HYPNOSIS – what can you expect? What is my background? What is hypnosis?

Hypnosis is one of my newer interests.  Unlike most insta-everythings, “new” to me is less than seven years old. Again, I am not the typical hypnodomme or even hypnoteuse. I am a very cerebral and skeptical person. Emotionally I’m highly intuitive, but also very closed and cautious, rather than emotions being my first-line method for making sense of things. In many senses I’m a classic hardass, and hypnosis always struck me as rather – flimsy, frankly. I was at one point a very strong hypnosis naysayer.

That changed, when I experienced the relaxation and benefit that hypnosis can bring.  After a chain of life events I found myself going under during Yoga, during corpse pose. My instructor, I realized, was in fact, trancing me, joining me to my breath, creating the phenomenon in me that so many had tried and utterly failed to impart. Hypnotic sleep. It was wonderful.

I used this sexually, first, with my intimate partners. The more I studied and read the more I found inventive and fascinating ways to combine fetish, sexuality, domination, and even for the extreme edge enthusiast *exploitation* with hypnosis.

Because I am not a professional, I am not bound by ethics to prevent or discourage  attachment or attraction from forming, I am not bound by the profession to be *therapeutic* and I am perfectly willing, with the consenting, seeking, and risk-aware “victim” to go into territories that would de-certify anyone in the business of professional healing.

I do have my OWN ethics, which are sterling though very very harsh. Ask and you may get what you asked for. I give ample opportunity for you to consider, waver, and dither back and forth. Because I know – I KNOW – that in the end it’s likely you will capitulate.

That tends to happen.

That tends to happen all the time.

This is a rundown for those unfamiliar with hypnosis or familiar at most through mainstream fictional representations of hypnosis.

1. What is it, really? Will I cluck like a chicken?

I’m more into making you bark like a dog, personally. And that’s a maybe. Hypnosis is simply a state of focus that shifts one’s attention to exclude certain factors in favor of other factors. People often refer to it as “hyperfocus” and I suppose that’s a legitimate description. If you have seen a film so good that you didn’t realize that it was in fact, four hours long, or you come out saying “that didn’t FEEL like four hours!” this is an example of hypnotic phenomena in an everyday setting. If you’re an SM diehard, maybe you’ll agree with me that the appeal of the vast majority of floggings you see in a playspace is in fact – light hypnosis. In fact, I often wonder if subspace isn’t a form of hypnosis. I digress – hypnosis is a means of using our attention, our thoughts, and our mind-body connection to train the mind and the body.  The training can be as simple as “how to actually relax.”

Hypnosis often consists of a number of phases – induction – getting someone into a light hypnotic trance – suggestion – deepening of the trance – anchor – which reinforces the behavior/ thoughts in hypnosis after the hypnosis itself is over – and waking. How all of these things are accomplished varies widely.

1. What kinds of hypnosis are there and what do you like?

I like a blended approach that leaves a lot of tools at my disposal. I still love classic suggestion and induction and I don’t think I’ll ever want to ditch those tools.

By contrast, conversational/Ericksonian hypnosis relies on choice rather than authoritative command and is often ideal for more guarded types of people. “You can go on and let yourself be comfortable” versus “You are getting sleepy” for the most basic bonehead analogy in the way of explantion. I’m one of those more guarded types myself, so I think it makes me particularly creative and shrewd when it comes time to do a narrative induction or an indirect suggestion.

I use classic, Ericksonian, breathwork, and verbal confusion.

2. Can you induce instantly?

It can be done. Personally, I don’t have much interest in it. It’s kind of neat in the hands of the masters, but to me, induction is a journey and an opportunity, every time. I like 5-10 minutes, generally, for this phase. Sometimes as many as 30 – it depends on the subject. It can be done, I’m probably not the person you want to talk to if you have a “zapped under instantly” fetish.

3. Can you make me do things I don’t want to do?

Why does everyone ask this? I’m not going to make anyone go out there and do anything truly vile to kids and puppies, it’s simply beyond the pale and you’re a creep if you think I would.

What don’t you want to do?

Are you scared I’m going to turn you gay or hoping I will? If you are even asking me that question thinking “can you make me suck cock?” you’re not as morally opposed as you think you are.

Things you are absolutely morally set in stone opposed to, you will find remain the same. No matter what. I’m completely unlikely to change them.  What you ARE opposed to versus what you THINK or WISH you were  – is a surprising, erotic, fascinating gray area. If you don’t want to explore that fact, you may wish to stick to the kiddie pool and call a faux hypnosis phone sex operator.

4. Is it dangerous?

Do you have a heart condition of any kind? Have you EVER had a seizure? If you are medicated for or have a history of moderate to severe psychiatric issues – then any of these situations make hypnosis inappropriate for you, sorry – Particularly avoid hypnotic mp3 and video, mine or other.

I can talk about fantasy or “what if” hypnotic scenarios with you, but actual induction is a bad idea.

5. I’m actually doing this new thing I asked for and I hate it!

I can reverse anything I do. Talk to me if you think you are having any adverse effects – something I did not intend to happen could be happening and I’d be happy to make it stop.

However if we discussed this ad-nauseum beforehand, I consider this differently.

If you DID ask me for a suggestion, again, I can undo anything I did – but consider your request to have it stop it a nuclear-option safeword. I will reverse, restore, re-set you, but I will also never do that particular training with you again, even if you beg me for it and no matter how much.  I take my time seriously and I take your desire to submit seriously.

I’m an extremely demanding Dominant woman and your requests and actions have repercussions I’m not here to babysit you over. Think about what you are asking for when you are clearheaded.

This is the core difference between working with a hypnoteuse who “does domination” and working with a Dominant woman who does hypnosis, please be very certain of the difference.

You are subject to my wishes, you are giving yourself over, and it is actually about ME, yes. Backtracking and whining are not tolerated.

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